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Book Title: Секс в человеческой любви. Анализ эго-состояний личности в сексуальных отношениях людей|
The author of the book: Eric Berne
ISBN 13: 9785790513619
Edition: РИПОЛ КЛАССИК
Date of issue: 2002
Format files: PDF
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I read this ultra-obscure tome (9 goodreads reviews??) based on a handful of sudden motivations. I spied the book stashed away in a drawer at a friend's house, for just long enough to notice that it was written by Eric Berne, who had written Games People Play, a book I once stole from my father's bookshelf but also one that a college roommate of mine greatly admired. As a human, "sex" and "loving" are important topics that are often on my mind; the relationship between the two being quite a large source of ongoing consideration.
The title stuck with me, so I looked it up on the internet, found some bootleg New Zealand website that had a crystal clear PDF, downloaded it to my iPad, and then read the whole thing in 3 sittings.
In the Q&A in the appendix of the book -- apparently culled largely from lectures, though it does not feel like reading a series of lectures -- Berne is asked, "How can you account for so many laughs from all of us on such a serious subject?" and replies, "Since sex is supposed to be fun, I don't see why a lecture about it shouldn't be fun too." Replace lecture with book, and there you go. It's a fun read, littered with strange and hilarious and often just slightly misogynistic jokes (hey, it was written in the 70s) while still being completely serious and thoughtful on the topics of sexuality and human psychology.
When I was in college, I tried reading Games People Play, and struggled with it. I had trouble imagining all the details of all the different transactional analyses being described, constantly trying to shoe-horn myself into one of the "Games" and wondering what the purpose was. Am I supposed to learn to be a player? Am I supposed to identify my role in games and thwart it or encourage it? Perhaps I was too young or impatient or self-obsessed to extract useful lessons for myself. Yet, I had similar problems in the brief section on Sexual Games in this book, as Berne immediately gets hot and heavy with his encyclopedia of games, cycling through example after example of human dynamics and quick descriptions of the way they play out. This section ends quickly though, and the moral(s) of the story come into focus: don't play those games! Seek true intimacy! *Actually* talk and *actually* see your partner!
Also there is this whole thing about free will being a bit of an illusion, but that we can recognize this about ourselves and work hard to change the scripts that govern so much of our behavior, if we try. Perhaps this is why I've been in therapy for the past 7 years.
Perhaps I could have just gone straight to Freud, but I have a feeling I enjoyed this book more than I would have reading Old Siggy.
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Read information about the authorEric Berne was a Canadian-born psychiatrist best known as the creator of transactional analysis. Eric was born on May 10, 1910 as Eric Lennard Bernstein in Montreal, Canada.He and his sister Grace, who was five years younger than Eric, were the children of a physician and a writer, David and Sara Gordon Bernstein.David Bernstein died in 1921, and the children were raised by their mother.
Bernstein attended Montreal's McGill University, graduating in 1931 and earning his M.D., C.M. in 1935.While at McGill he wrote for several student newspapers using pseudonyms. He followed graduation with a residency in psychiatry at Yale University, where he studied psychoanalysis under Paul Federn.
In 1943 he changed his legal name to Eric Berne.He continued to use pseudonyms, such as Cyprian St. Cyr ("Cyprian Sincere"), for whimsical articles in the Transactional Analysis Bulletin.
Berne's training was interrupted by World War II and his service in the Army Medical Corps, where he was promoted to the rank of Major. After working at Bushnell Army Hospital in Ogden, Utah, he was discharged in 1945.